As a Wedding DJ and Master of Ceremonies based in Phoenix, Arizona, I tend to meet my clients when they are at their most stressed. They have just started planning their wedding, and the multitude of choices seems overwhelming. However, as time goes on, I have begun to notice that making decision after decision leads to something worse: decision fatigue.
What is decision fatigue?
It’s deciding that you just don’t care anymore. It’s flipping a coin instead of considering your options, and it’s avoiding all mention of scheduling and deadlines. In the end, you regret not putting more thought into your wedding, especially when you realize nothing goes together—and not in that fun artsy way either.
If this is you, then please read on. I’ve collected a few tips from former clients I think could be beneficial!
Take a Break
Don’t overwork yourself. That “I don’t care” attitude comes from too many straight hours of work, with very little downtime. Once you feel like you’re getting to the point where just the thought of color palettes make you sick, it’s time to take a timeout.
Turn off email notifications, put your phone on silent, and relax. Do something you enjoy, but not something that requires too much brain power. Remember, this is your time to recharge your brain and get energy levels back up. You’ll be surprised by how easy it is to hit the ground running after taking this break. In the end, you’ll be even more productive than before.
We’ve all been there. When your life has been totally consumed by a project—wedding-related or not—important things tend to get left to the wayside. By important things, I mean a full night’s sleep, well-rounded meals, and any form of “me time.” These are things all humans need in order to function properly.
A good meal isn’t just meant to give you energy, it helps recharge you mentally, while forcing you to sit and relax during an otherwise busy day. There’s nothing wrong with stopping to take this time, no matter how overwhelmed and busy you are. In the end, your body, your mind, and your workload will thank you. Overworked people are much less productive than those who stop and take care of themselves.
Create a Mood Board
This trick I got from Wedding Wire.
Mood boards aren’t just pretty things to show your friends when they ask about the wedding. They’re not just the product of a Pinterest-crazy afternoon, or a useless collection of photos. A mood board is like a shortcut for your mind.
If you make a mood board at the beginning of your wedding planning, it’s easy to refer back to when you’re too overwhelmed to make a decision. When you’re second guessing yourself, remember that you’ve already thought about what you like, and pinned it to a board for future reference. If you’re not sure if something goes with the overall theme of the wedding, ask the board. Easy as that.
Plan the Night Before
It may seem weird to plan what you’re going to plan, but it helps. Knowing what you need to do the next day means you can jump right into things after breakfast, and no time is lost feeling overwhelmed. It’s the whole reason people make a list.
Doing this also helps you prioritize, and makes the day seem much more manageable. By ticking each item off of your list, you’ll feel like you accomplished everything you set out to do for the day, instead of like you’re drowning in an unsurmountable amount of work. It’s always best to take a large project, and divide it down into smaller, more manageable parts.
As they say, “What’s the best way to eat an elephant?”One bite at a time. It’s a phrase, I swear.
I can’t emphasize this enough; you’re not alone. There are so many people out there at your disposal, and they want to help. When planning an event like this, delegating is as important as breathing. The surest way to reach your breaking point is to try and do everything yourself.
So if you feel yourself reaching that point, ask your spouse-to-be, your friends, your family, your soon-to-be-family, and find yourself a second—or tenth—pair of hands.
I may be biased, but booking the entertainment is just a bit more important than choosing the font on the invitations. Especially considering how early you need to book certain vendorsduring this process.
Because of this, it’s essential that you prioritize. Decide what matters most to you, when things need to be booked, and what you’re willing to spend the most on. If you need help deciding how to prioritize things, well I’ve also written about 5 Things to Consider When Making Wedding Decisions.
I hope this helps! If you have another way to avoid decision fatigue, please let me know below.