Planning Your Wedding Send-off

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Your wedding send-off can be one of the most memorable moments of your wedding day, and the perfect way to go out with a bang…sometimes literally. They’re also a great way to get some pretty epic photos—we’ve all seen those amazing shots of couples running through a line of sparklers at night. There’s a reason it’s one of the most iconic wedding photos.

There’s more to the wedding send-off than just sparklers, so I’ve decided to jot down a couple of my favorite send-offs, along with some things you should definitely take under consideration when planning your big exit. I hope this helps!

Types of Wedding Send-off

They type of wedding send-off you choose can depend on a variety of factors, such as the weather, the time of day, and venue (we’ll get to this later). The middle of the day might not be the best time for sparklers, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t a bunch of other, equally great, options.

Keep in mind that these work for both the exit from the wedding ceremony, as well as the reception. However, some are more traditionally meant for one or the other. Also, just because I’ve said something works best during the day, doesn’t mean it’s not the perfect nighttime wedding send-off for you!

Daytime Wedding Send-off Ideas

  • Birdseed or Rice (the more traditional options)
  • Balloons
  • Confetti or confetti poppers
  • Ribbon wands
  • Bubbles
  • Flower petals
  • Flags
  • Leaves
  • Streamers
  • Wedding bells or cow bells
  • Glitter
  • Butterflies
  • Smoke bombs
  • Silly string

Nighttime Wedding Send-off Ideas

  • Sky lanterns
  • Glow sticks or LED light sticks
  • Sparklers
  • Fireworks
  • Sequins

Wedding Send-off Considerations

There are a lot of things that can impact the type of wedding send-off you choose. As you can tell from above, time of day is one of them. Sparklers look best at night, and you wouldn’t be able to see butterflies in the dark. Some send-offs—like wedding or cow bells—work just as well no matter the time of day.

But the time of day isn’t the only thing that can impact your send-off, so be sure to consider all of the factors below:

The Venue

I don’t just mean which send-off might look best with the venue, or fit your theme better (although this is important). Sometimes venues and cities have rules against certain send-offs, such as sparklers or fireworks. And honestly, if you think your entire wedding party might be drunk by the time you leave, maybe it’s best to leave the explosives at home.

Additionally, you should definitely check the venue’s opening hours. According to this article by Wedding Wire, “One thing couples often forget to check is their venue’s shut-down time. Find out when the event needs to be over, as well as when all vendors need to be packed up and off the premises…Then count backwards from there to ensure your reception ends in time to accommodate your send-off.”

The Photographer

Half the point of having a grand exit is the photos. If the photographer isn’t there, did it even happen? Most photographers contracts don’t last the entire night, and many will leave halfway through the dancing. To ensure you get those photos, you may need to extend the contract (although this can be fairly pricey). Another option is to do a “fake” send-off halfway through the reception, and then go back in to enjoy the rest of the party. It’s a bit anticlimactic, but it will save you a ton of money.
Also, according to the same Wedding Wire article, “If you have pros capturing the moment, make sure they know what to expect. Share what will be happening, where, and when so your photographer and videographer can scout the area and determine the best way to capture it.

The Environment

Some send-offs aren’t great for the environment. If this is something that matters to you, then maybe lanterns aren’t the best choice for your wedding send-off. In fact, many venues will prohibit send-offs that aren’t eco-friendly (which is why checking with your venue is the first thing you should do).

Certain send-offs, such as glow sticks and ribbon wands are much easier to collect after the party is done. Glitter? Not so much.

Do you have a creative send-off that I didn’t mention in this article? Comment below!

Tired of constantly having to make decisions while planning your wedding? Check out this article about fighting wedding planning fatigue.

Planning Your Wedding: Decision Fatigue

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As a Wedding DJ and Master of Ceremonies based in Phoenix, Arizona, I tend to meet my clients when they are at their most stressed. They have just started planning their wedding, and the multitude of choices seems overwhelming. However, as time goes on, I have begun to notice that making decision after decision leads to something worse: decision fatigue.

What is decision fatigue?

It’s deciding that you just don’t care anymore. It’s flipping a coin instead of considering your options, and it’s avoiding all mention of scheduling and deadlines. In the end, you regret not putting more thought into your wedding, especially when you realize nothing goes together—and not in that fun artsy way either.

If this is you, then please read on. I’ve collected a few tips from former clients I think could be beneficial!

Take a Break

Don’t overwork yourself. That “I don’t care” attitude comes from too many straight hours of work, with very little downtime. Once you feel like you’re getting to the point where just the thought of color palettes make you sick, it’s time to take a timeout.

Turn off email notifications, put your phone on silent, and relax. Do something you enjoy, but not something that requires too much brain power. Remember, this is your time to recharge your brain and get energy levels back up. You’ll be surprised by how easy it is to hit the ground running after taking this break. In the end, you’ll be even more productive than before.

Eat well

We’ve all been there. When your life has been totally consumed by a project—wedding-related or not—important things tend to get left to the wayside. By important things, I mean a full night’s sleep, well-rounded meals, and any form of “me time.” These are things all humans need in order to function properly.

A good meal isn’t just meant to give you energy, it helps recharge you mentally, while forcing you to sit and relax during an otherwise busy day. There’s nothing wrong with stopping to take this time, no matter how overwhelmed and busy you are. In the end, your body, your mind, and your workload will thank you. Overworked people are much less productive than those who stop and take care of themselves.

Create a Mood Board

This trick I got from Wedding Wire.

Mood boards aren’t just pretty things to show your friends when they ask about the wedding. They’re not just the product of a Pinterest-crazy afternoon, or a useless collection of photos. A mood board is like a shortcut for your mind.

If you make a mood board at the beginning of your wedding planning, it’s easy to refer back to when you’re too overwhelmed to make a decision. When you’re second guessing yourself, remember that you’ve already thought about what you like, and pinned it to a board for future reference. If you’re not sure if something goes with the overall theme of the wedding, ask the board. Easy as that.

Plan the Night Before

It may seem weird to plan what you’re going to plan, but it helps. Knowing what you need to do the next day means you can jump right into things after breakfast, and no time is lost feeling overwhelmed. It’s the whole reason people make a list.

Doing this also helps you prioritize, and makes the day seem much more manageable. By ticking each item off of your list, you’ll feel like you accomplished everything you set out to do for the day, instead of like you’re drowning in an unsurmountable amount of work. It’s always best to take a large project, and divide it down into smaller, more manageable parts.

As they say, “What’s the best way to eat an elephant?”One bite at a time. It’s a phrase, I swear.

Delegate

I can’t emphasize this enough; you’re not alone. There are so many people out there at your disposal, and they want to help. When planning an event like this, delegating is as important as breathing. The surest way to reach your breaking point is to try and do everything yourself.

So if you feel yourself reaching that point, ask your spouse-to-be, your friends, your family, your soon-to-be-family, and find yourself a second—or tenth—pair of hands.

Prioritize

I may be biased, but booking the entertainment is just a bit more important than choosing the font on the invitations. Especially considering how early you need to book certain vendorsduring this process.

Because of this, it’s essential that you prioritize. Decide what matters most to you, when things need to be booked, and what you’re willing to spend the most on. If you need help deciding how to prioritize things, well I’ve also written about 5 Things to Consider When Making Wedding Decisions.

 

I hope this helps! If you have another way to avoid decision fatigue, please let me know below.

Tips for Writing Your Own Wedding Vows

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For me, the most touching part of any wedding ceremony is the vows—and nowadays many couples opt to write their own. There’s never a dry eye in the house as the bride and groom reminisce about the first moment they realized they were in love, or all the quirky things they love about their partner.

Writing your own wedding vows is one of the best ways to share your love story with friends and family, and help them feel like a part of the ceremony—which is why so many couples decide to do so. It’s also a great way to personalize the traditional vows that guests have come to expect.

While writing your own wedding vows is usually a hit, it’s more difficult than many think. Not only do you have to contend with writer’s block, but there are so many different factors to keep in mind, such as the amount of time you have, the tone you want to hit, and actually confessing your deepest feelings out loud in front of everyone.

After speaking with some of my couples, as well as researching on Wedding Wireand The Knot, I’ve put together a list of some tips for writing your own wedding vows. I hope it helps anyone currently sitting at a desk trying to figure out what to write—I know I’ve been there.

Writing Your Own Wedding Vows

  1. Work with your partner

Many couples want to keep their vows secret until the ceremony, but this doesn’t mean you can’t work with your partner to keep the tone and format consistent. Decide together if the vows will be solely romantic, or have some comedic elements. It’s also perfectly fine to do your own thing, but many couples find these agreements helpful when it comes to drafting their vows.

In this Wedding Wirearticle, Kimberly Salt says “One of the perks…of going in on writing wedding vows together is the conversations you’ll have and memories you’re reflect back on as you discuss…You might even find you want to go in on the fun together… with some couples even preparing poems, raps or song lyrics to surprise their guests.”

  1. Listen to other’s vows

This is a great way to get inspiration and start hitting the right tone for your vows. When I have trouble writing something, it helps to read something written in a similar way to what I want my writing to sound like, and it recalibrates my brain.

In this article by The Knot, it suggests you “Start by reading traditional, by-the-book vows from your own religion if you practice a certain faith, and others as well, to see what strikes a chord with you. Incorporate these samples into the original words you write or simply use them as a jumping-off point. Once you’ve found a few you love, consider what it is about the style that draws you to those vows in particular.”

  1. Practice out loud

This is important to not only perfect your delivery, but ensure that you take the right amount of time. Vows should be around 1-2 minutes—any longer and people might start zoning out. Of course, there are always exceptions to this rule. So, it’s up to you to decide how much time is right for your wedding ceremony.

Just be sure to practice out loud while writing your wedding vows because how quickly you read silently to yourself can be very different from the amount of time it takes to actually say anything out loud. You’ll also want to practice the pacing, because rushed vows just make you seem nervous and lose a lot of the emotional impact.

  1. Give yourself enough time to write

Some of my best ideas come to me out of the blue—while I’m walking around, stuck in traffic, or even brushing my teeth. This is why you should always give yourself time when writing your wedding vows. If you only have a day to write them, there’s no time for these golden ideas to come to you, and you end up using your first draft when edits were probably necessary. Just remember, it doesn’t matter how good a writer you are, no first draft is perfect!

  1. Forget the audience

I know that in the beginning I said writing your own wedding vows was the best way to include others in your love story—and it still is. However, it’s more important that you tailor your vows to your partner than it is to direct everything at the crowd. At the end of the day, your wedding day is only about you and your love story. Everything else is secondary, so don’t be afraid to prioritize your partner in your vows. I can think of no better beginning to a marriage.

Incorporate Your Love Story into Your Wedding

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As a Wedding DJ & Master of Ceremonies based in Arizona, I’ve been to a lot of weddings—and that’s an understatement! Over the years, I’ve noticed that I remember some weddings more than others. So, I began to ask myself, “What made these weddings stand out?” 

In the end, it wasn’t about the budget, the venue, or even the décor. It was about the people. I remember the weddings that really allowed me to feel like I was a part of their love story—no matter how small a role I played. Even though I only knew those couples for a short time, their weddings had a way of telling their story to the world. 

Finding a way to incorporate your love story in different aspects of your wedding is important. You don’t want your wedding to look like anyone else’s, and personalizing your wedding is the best way to truly make it yours

Below are some of the most creative ways I’ve seen people incorporate their love story into their wedding. Enjoy!

1. Make the Most of Your Vows

This is the moment where you stand in front of all your friends and family, and declare your commitment to one another…and they definitely will sit and listen. Make the most of this captive audience! Talk about the moment you first met, the moment you knew you loved each other, any other milestone the makes your relationship special. 

Don’t go overboard and spend fifteen minutes each on vows, but make them special, and make them personal. Your loved ones can’t truly celebrate with you unless they know what they’re celebrating. This is why it’s so important to incorporate your love story into your wedding day. It’s the culmination of everything you’ve been through together, and you should be able to celebrate it with everyone. 

2. Don’t Ignore the Programs

Many couple don’t utilize the programs to their fullest potential. It isn’t just a piece a paper detailing the events of the evening, it’s a blank canvas for you to get creative with. Incorporate your love story by including a timeline of important milestones, or a blurb telling your loved ones about the proposal. There’s no limit to the number of ways you can make your wedding program special.

3. Showcase Photos

Using photos of you both together is another great way to incorporate your love story into your wedding day. Yes, it’s been done. But that doesn’t mean it isn’t a great way to give your friends and family a sneak peak into your lives together. Instead of just reading or hearing about your love story, this is the perfect way to really help them visualize it. Even the silly selfies you take together can tell a story.

4. Have Fun with Table Names

Like the programs, table names are also often ignored when it comes to incorporating your love story into your wedding. Why use regular, boring table numbers when you can do just about anything else? You could use the dates of important milestones in your relationship, name the tables after your many dogs, or even use the names of locations that are special to you. The possibilities are endless, and it’s amazing how playing with table names can get guests talking.

5. Serve Your Favorite Foods

If mac & cheese is your favorite food, serve it. If you love breakfast dinner, I’ll be the first one “egging” you on. Everyone goes with chicken or fish solely because they feel like they have to. Food has so much personality, and many couples go with traditional options that say nothing about their own preferences. That said, there’s no shame in going traditional if that represents you. I’ll always encourage you to do what makes you happy.

6. Include Special Memories in Your Favors

Not all couples decide on handing out favors, but for those that do, why not make them personal? “Special” doesn’t have to mean expensive, it could just mean “special to you.” Incorporating your love story into your wedding is more important than handing out the small soaps and champagne bottles that guests have come to expect. Simply adding your initials doesn’t make an item “yours.” A special memory, however, does. This is your last chance to remind guests why they’re there, don’t miss it!

7. Personalize Your Soundtrack

Okay, I may be a bit biased here. I am a Wedding DJ & MC after all. Despite this, I firmly believe that a soundtrack is the perfect way to incorporate your love story into your wedding. Maybe start the night off with the first song you danced to? Or choose a beach-themed song if you met at the beach? Create a timeline. Have some fun with the lyrics. Use music to tell your love story in a subtle, yet still meaningful way. This is your chance to get creative! 

Still interested in the ways you can incorporate your love story into your wedding? Check out this Wedding Wire article!

Can you think of another way to personalize your wedding? Let me know below!  

A Bridal Shower on a Budget

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It’s about time that we finally acknowledged the unsung heroes of any wedding: the bridesmaids. As a Wedding DJ & Master of Ceremonies based in Phoenix, Arizona, I’ve seen firsthand that being a bridesmaid—not to mention the Maid of Honor—isn’t the party many think it is. 

Being a bridesmaid is a lot of work, and it’s expensive. In fact, I have a theory that the reason brides choose their closest friends and family for this task is because they’re the only ones who will put up with it for them…But I digress. 

One of the most important aspects of the bridesmaid’s job is to plan the bridal shower. And let’s face it, expectations are always pretty high. At this point, the bride is a pro at planning events, so she’s going to notice if there’s something wrong with this one. 

So, how is a bridesmaid supposed to throw a bridal shower on a budget? How does she throw a fun and memorable bridal shower without breaking the bank? Below I’ve attempted to lend a hand by brainstorming 7 suggestions on how to keep a bridal shower meaningful without going way over budget. 

Make a Signature Cocktail

Instead of buying a bunch of different types of alcohol and mixers—let alone a professional bartender—try making a signature cocktail for the event. Maybe something to commemorate the bride and groom? Either way, by creating a signature cocktail, you only need the ingredient for that drink and can make pitchers of it. If you feel you need more variety, get some wine or soda. Easy peasy. 

Send an Evite

Welcome to the world of technology. Yes, sending handwritten stationery, scented with lavender and sealed with the family crest has a certain je ne sais quoi, but evites can also be classy. And better yet? They’re free. It’s the perfect way to throw a bridal shower on a budget.

Besides, a bridal shower isn’t always a formal event, and it’s definitely less formal than the actual wedding. You can easily get away with an evite. There are a lot of elegant evite designs out there, and I recommend you don’t let them go to waste! 

DIY Everything (Or as Much as Possible) 

You know what you’re qualified to DIY, so I won’t tell you to hand-stitch everyone matching jackets or anything. But there are a lot of easy options. While it’s more geared towards the wedding reception, I have also written about DIY Do’s and Don’ts that you may want to look into. 

You could look into making your own decorations, baking a cake or cupcakes instead of the traditional bakery-made item, and even coming up with your own games. If all else fails, there are free games online that you could utilize. There is simply no end to the list of items you could DIY at a bridal shower. And it’s a great way to add a personal touch to the event!

Find a Free Venue 

And by free, I mean someone’s house. Between you and the other bridesmaids, someone has got to have access to a “venue”. If you or a family member have a larger house with enough room to entertain, give it a thought. Too often the people planning the bridal shower assume they have to rent out a restaurant or some other large venue, and they spend the budget before they even begin planning the details. Don’t fall into this trap! 

Make the Food yourself 

You don’t need a 5-star chef to make your bridal shower lunch. You just don’t. You don’t even need to have it catered, especially if budget is an issue. If you don’t want to have to cook an entire feast yourself, use the other bridesmaids. Each one of you can bring something to the party, and by the time everyone arrives, you’ll have a 3-course meal with dessert! 

Skip the Game Prizes

No one really needs those little soaps and trinkets. Besides, the fun part is the game, right? So, just play the game. It’s not necessary for everything to have a prize attached to it, and I’m sure everyone will have just as much fun without it. If you still feel the need to provide a prize, wrap up some cookies for the winners of the bridal shower games. 

Keep Things in Perspective

That’s right. This event is about friendship and fun, and everyone knows it. If you plan the event and give it your all, even if something goes wrong, no one will be angry. It’s all about the time you get to spend together, not fancy prizes and food. So take a deep breath, exhale, and focus on fun.

Did you find any of these suggestions useful? Have recommendations of your own? Comment below. I love learning new ways to keep events budget-friendly!

Bridal Shower on a Budget

Downsizing Your Wedding: The Newest Trend

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As a Wedding DJ & MC based in Phoenix, Arizona, I tend to be “in the know” about the newest wedding trends. Not because I spend hours poring through magazines and websites, but because I get to see them firsthand. The naked cake? Mason jars? Ice cream bars? Yeah, I’ve kind of seen it all. 

Lately, a lot of the weddings I’ve worked have been in smaller venues with less guests. It soon dawned on me that this wasn’t just a weird coincidence, but yet another wedding trend: the small wedding. 

Downsizing your wedding is becoming more and more common throughout the industry. At first, as a Wedding DJ & MC, I wasn’t the biggest fan. I’m used to packed dancefloors and large crowds. However, it wasn’t long before I started to see the benefits of downsizing your wedding. While there were less people on the dancefloor, those who were there knew each other and were more willing to have some fun with their dance moves.

I’ve decided to write this post for all of the naysayers out there when it comes to downsizing your wedding. Once I found one benefit, it didn’t take me long to see many others! 

Top 5 Reasons to Downsize Your Wedding

1. A Smaller Wedding is More Budget-Friendly

This seems pretty obvious, but saving money is definitely a good reason to consider a smaller wedding. According to a CNN article, in 2016 the average wedding in the United States cost around $35,000. For most people, that’s…a lot. 

Wedding-Venuessaid it best, “While your wedding is an experience you certainly won’t want to forget, it doesn’t mean you need to spend all your life savings on just one day.” I definitely agree with this. If you don’t want to spend all of your savings, downsizing your wedding is a great way to cut costs. 

Maybe go on an amazing honeymoon? Or save it for later. Whatever you choose, you’ll have a lot of options.

2. Downsizing Your Wedding Lets You Add Personal Touches

If you have 500+ guests, there comes a point where you make decisions based off of necessity, not desire. Did you want everyone to get their own personalized pizza? A dinner performance? Well, if you have a legion of guests, this isn’t really possible. Especially if you don’t want dinner to last for the entire event. 

Each additional guest adds to the amount of work your vendors need to do, and in turn will add to the time it takes for each event to finish. And trust me, receptions tend to be action-packed anyways, so being able to move things along is essential. Here’s a taste of what your reception might look like.

3. A Smaller Wedding = Less Stress

Can you imagine the amount of work that goes into planning such a big event? The amount of stress? This is why so many couples hire a wedding planner

And you may think that once you say “I do” all of the stress is over, but that’s not necessarily true. You still have to play the role of host for 500 people and tackle any problems that may occur. If you downsize your wedding, everything is less overwhelming, and people are more willing to step up and help you out if there’s a “wedding emergency”. 

4. Less People Means a Fun, Unique Venue

When you’re expecting less guests, you don’t have to worry about the size of the wedding and reception venues. Many couples don’t realize how limiting a big headcount is until they start looking for these locations. 

According to Evening Standard, “Small, intimate weddings…offer plenty of choice and a whole range of hidden gems.” And Phoenix, Arizona has a lot of hidden gems. I may be biased, but I think Arizona has some of the best wedding venues. In fact, I’ve already made a list of my favorites

5. You Get a Day with Your Closest Friends and Family

With all of the stress and anxiety that comes with planning your wedding, it’s easy to forget that this is supposed to be a day that you celebrate you love with your closest friends and family. You get stuck constantly solving problems, and in the end, you just want it all to be over with so you can lay back and put your feet up. 

I don’t like this. I don’t like that some couples don’t enjoy their big day because they’re so stressed. Sometimes, they don’t even get to spend any quality time with their loved ones because they’re too focused on spending time with everyone. 

If you think this could happen to you, then I recommend downsizing your wedding. Some people prefer a larger wedding, but if this isn’t you, don’t do it. Plan a wedding you’ll enjoy, not one you have to endure. 

Do you prefer a big wedding, or a small one? Why? Comment below and let me know what you think! 

Making Wedding Decisions: 5 Things You Should Consider 

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Making decisions about your wedding day can be hard. Not only do you feel pressure to make sure everything is absolutely perfect on one of the most important days of your life, but there’s just so many options!

As a Wedding DJ & Master of Ceremonies based in Phoenix, Arizona, I can tell you that the wedding industry is huge. There are so many possible vendors to choose from, and many couples can get overwhelmed by all of the options.

So, what should you take into account when making these important decisions? Not just regarding a specific type of vendor—but in general. What is the criteria for deciding if a vendor is right for you?

Now, this is entirely subjective, but I’ve attempted to create a list of some of the most important things my couples have considered before adding a new vendor to the team.

1. Cost

The first thing every couple should consider when choosing a vendor or venue is the cost. After doing some preliminary research, couples should create a wedding budget, with an idea of what percentage of that budget they plan on spending on each vendor.

Once you know about how much you want to spend—and how much that service usually costs in your area—choosing a vendor should be much easier.

Confused about how much money to allocate on each vendor? Check out this article I wrote about the most common wedding allocation budgets!

2. Value

There is only one reason you may decide to spend more on your vendor than originally planned: value. If you find a DJ, caterer, or photographer that offers an amazing package, or can deliver the wedding day of your dreams, then go for it.

You created the wedding budget, but you don’t have to stick to it. You just need to decide if the value, and quality, offered by the vendor is worth paying more for.

Think of it like buying plane tickets for a 15-hour plane ride. You could always go for the cheaper economy tickets, but if the luxurious—yet expensive—business class tickets would make the ride that much better, then maybe you should get them. This is where the importance of the service comes into play. Is it more important to stay on budget? Or is it more important to be comfortable?

3. Importance

Before you allocate money to your wedding budget, and start booking your vendors, you need to decide what’s important to you. Would you rather spend your money on a more expensive venue? Or is an amazing DJ and MC more important to you? What can you do without? What can you DIY?

Before you start spending your money, you need to decide what to spend your money on. Most people can’t afford the best of everything, so go in knowing what you want the best of. Making these decisions can be difficult, but it must be done.

If you’re truly having a hard time, maybe look into hiring a wedding planner?

4. Theme

While that photo booth with all of the props seems like it could be a lot of fun, does it really seem appropriate for your elegant, understated theme?

Does that crystal tiara really go with your country chic aesthetic?

These are questions every couple must ask themselves when planning their wedding. While something may seem like a great idea on its own, the overall wedding should always be taken into account.

One of the hardest parts about planning a wedding is getting so many separate aspects to work together. Unless you want a patchwork wedding day—these pieces have to fit together cohesively.

5. Significance   

Your wedding day is meant to be emotional. It’s meant to be nostalgic. It’s meant to celebrate your love story.

Your wedding day is the culmination of all of the time you’ve spent together, and the love that you share. It’s also the beginning of your life together.

The choices you make should be significant—they should mean something to you. Don’t just choose a first dance song because it’s popular, but because it’s your song.

Maybe you’ve chosen a fun song and choreographed a dance because that’s just who you are as a couple? Maybe the color palette for the reception is based off of your high school colors? Maybe you’ve decided to decorate the venue with photos of your time together?

While cost and value are important, at the end of the day your wedding is a celebration of your love story, and should reflect that. Don’t be afraid of being too cheesy, because this is the one day you can be as cheesy as you want—and no one can say anything. In fact, they’ll probably be happy for you.

If you feel like I’m missing anything, feel free to let me know it the comments!

Getting Married on New Year’s Eve

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As a professional Wedding DJ & MC based in Phoenix, Arizona, I pay a lot of attention to when people are getting married. June is obvioulsy always a busy month for me, and the winter months—such as December—well, that’s when people are getting engaged.

According to the Wedding Wire 2018 Newlywed Report, Christmas is the most popular day of the year to propose, followed by Valentine’s Day and Christmas Eve. While getting engaged during the holidays definitely has its pros and cons, I feel that not enough people appreciate just how amazing a wedding this time of the year can be.

According to The Knot, December is the least popular month to get married, with a major spike in nuptials on December 31st. Why is this?

Because New Year’s Eve is a great time to get married!

I’ve decided to write a blog post in defense of getting married on New Year’s Eve. It’s a highly underrated time of the year to get married, and there are so many reasons for you to consider getting married on New Year’s Eve:

Everyone is ready to party on New Year’s Eve

If there’s one day of the year where just about everyone is ready to party, it’s New Year’s Eve. This is the time of the year that it’s socially acceptable for people of all ages to stay up all night and have fun. It’s actually considered weird to go to bed before midnight.

Why not take advantage of this?

If you want your guests to cut loose and truly enjoy your big day, then getting married on New Year’s Eve is the way to go. Most people plan on celebrating anyways, so why not celebrate together?

There’s no such thing as “too much”

Did you have your heart set on glitter, sparkles, and a black, gold, and silver color scheme? This is the one time of year that—not matter your venue—these colors are completely acceptable. You can go all out and drape everything in gold, and no one would even blink.

Sparklers? Go for it. Glitter bombs? You may regret it tomorrow, but sure. A champagne fountain? Yes!

Everyone can be as glamorous as they want, and wear the outfits they’ve never had the occasion to wear. Nothing is too tacky.

You will never forget your anniversary

Not only will you never forget your anniversary, but getting married on New Year’s Eve means that you have an excuse to throw a big party every year! While you may choose to spend your anniversary alone together, you’ll always have the option to celebrate with friends and family.

Not only that, but getting married on New Year’s Eve is very symbolic. It’s the beginning of a new year, as well as your life together. Who could resist that amount of romance?

It’s your last chance to indulge before resolutions

If you’re one of the few people who actually sticks to their New Year’s resolutions, then this is your last chance to indulge before those resolutions kick in. And what a way to end the year!

If you’ve decided to give up sweets, drinking, meat, etc., this is a great way to go out with a bang. Enjoy the night before keeping to your promises in the morning. A lively wedding reception is the perfect time to have some fun before buckling down.

The countdown

This is the most anticipated portion of any New Year’s Eve party. The moment when everyone stops what they’re doing and counts down to the new year is absolutely magical. When you get married on New Year’s Eve, you’ll get to experience the magic of New Year’s Day side-by-side with the magic of your marriage.

Additionally, you can guarantee that you’ll be surrounded by friends and family during a time of the year that everyone wants to be surrounded by loved ones.

And when the clock strikes midnight? Well, that’s up to you. But the number of possibilities is endless.

Sparklers? Fireworks? Champagne?

Whatever you choose, the beginning of the new year will symbolize the beginning of your marriage and the celebration of your love. So, above all else, choose what’s right for you.

As a Wedding DJ & Master of Ceremonies, I love it when couples choose to get married on New Year’s Eve. It’s always a time of happiness and revelry. Guests are ready to celebrate and dance the night away. Not only that, but combining your bid day with one of the most magical nights of the year can only enhance both.

Not enough people appreciate the genius of getting married on New Year’s Eve, so I hope this article has made a good argument in defense of the New Year’s wedding. Have any additional thoughts about getting married on New Year’s Eve? Let me know below!

The Weekday Wedding

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As a Wedding DJ & Master of Ceremonies based in Phoenix, Arizona, I can tell you from experience that the weekday wedding is severely underrated. Everyone seems to be aiming for the weekend.

I understand why, but there are so many benefits to having your wedding during the week, and I feel like not many people have considered them. So, I’ve decided to compile a list of the pros and cons of weekday weddings.

Who knows? Maybe this article will change your mind? A weekday wedding may just be the perfect option for you.

Weekday Wedding Pros

  1. Weekday Weddings Are More Budget Friendly

Just about everything is cheaper on the weekday: transportation, catering, venues, and most vendors. When there’s less demand, prices get more competitive. In fact, many venues offer discounts on the weekdays. So, if there’s a golf course or vineyard you never thought you could afford, this is your chance.

The truth is, weekday weddings leave extra room in your budget for more exclusive vendors and venues, as well as fun things you knew weren’t going to make the cut. I’m looking at you, chocolate fountain.

  1. Vendors Are More Available

There are only so many weekends in the year, and just about all of them get booked for weddings. The better vendors get booked out almost a year in advance, and you’re left settling on something you didn’t really want.

Because fewer couples go for the weekday wedding, these dates are not only cheaper, but more likely to be available. If you have a dream venue, this may be your only chance to snag it—especially if you’ve procrastinated on the booking.

  1. Travel Prices Are Lower During the Week

This may go under the “budget-friendly” heading, but I felt it was important enough to mention on its own. If you’re going anywhere outside of town, it may be especially beneficial for you to plan a weekday wedding. Flights and hotels are always cheaper Monday‑Thursday. In fact, Wednesday is supposed to be one of the cheapest days to fly!

  1. Some Vendors Offer Extra Incentives for Weekday Weddings 

Many vendors like to incentivize weekday weddings by offering discounts and special “extras.” A photographer’s wedding package may be cheaper, or include extra perks that you would ordinarily have had to pay an arm and a leg for. Hoping to keep the photographer for longer? Or want any special editing done? Monday-Thursday are the days to look for it.

Weekday Wedding Cons 

  1. Not Everyone Can Go

Unfortunate, but true. Some of your guests may have prior commitments on your wedding day and not be able to attend. If your guests have kids, it’s easier to find a babysitter on the weekday, but this is something they may not want to pay for. And if they want to bring their children, they may be more reluctant to do so on a school night.

  1. Traffic

While long-distance travel is cheaper during weekdays, driving around in the city can be a pain. There’s nothing worse than speeding towards your destination, only to suddenly hit the brakes because you’ve hit rush hour. If you think you can avoid the traffic, then you’re probably forgetting about school traffic, and everyday city traffic. It’s hard to get around it.

So, unless you’re having your wedding in the country, you may have to be patient with latecomers. Odds are they just spent 30 minutes in back-to-back traffic, trying the rein in their road rage. Nothing a quick trip to the bar won’t solve.

  1. Weekday Weddings Are Quieter (Unless It’s on Friday)

People aren’t as willing to drink and dance the night away on a Tuesday—they just aren’t. Unless everyone takes Wednesday off, you may have a quieter wedding on your hands. While some people may not make it to the wedding due to school and work commitments, others will come but take it easy.

Because of this, I recommend a Friday wedding. It’s the sweet spot. Fridays are still cheaper than the weekends, but you also get a crowd willing to party and celebrate your big day with you properly. When people have the whole weekend to recover, they’re more likely to enjoy themselves.

  1. Relatives WILL Talk

There’s always that group of hypercritical, traditional family members who think weddings should only be on the weekends. Don’t ask me why. I don’t get it. Yes, the weekday wedding is slightly more inconvenient, but the day is about the bride and groom. If they want a weekday wedding, they get one—and no one should have any say in it. Find a polite way to let any critical wedding guests know this.

Some people have strong opinions about the weekday wedding, but the only one that matters is yours.

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Getting Engaged During the Holidays

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I know it’s not exactly holiday season yet, but we’re close enough that if you’re thinking about popping the question, you’ll probably be making that decision soon. According to surveys, a lot of people are thinking about a holiday proposal right about now.

A Wedding Wire article “Top 10 Most Popular Days to Get Engaged”, shows that Christmas day is the most popular day of the year for proposals. Some of the runner-ups include, Christmas Eve, New Year’s Day, New Year’s Eve, December 23rd, and two Saturdays before Christmas Eve. So, six of the ten days mentioned in the article take place during this special time of year.

You see the trend?

As a Wedding DJ & MC based in Phoenix, Arizona, a lot of my couples have told me about their amazing holiday proposals. They’ve also mentioned some things you should keep in mind if you’re going to propose in front of your entire family.

I’m here to tell you why you should get engaged over the holidays…and what you need to consider before doing so.

Why People are Getting Engaged During the Holidays

 

  1. Your family will be there

Your friends and family will be able to share in the excitement with you. If you have a big and close family, the holidays may be a great time for a proposal. Instead of spreading the news via phone, everyone important to you will be right there. What’s better than having your own group of personal cheerleaders?

Also, if you’re planning an elaborate proposal, you’ll have a lot of people there to help you pull it off. If needed, they can keep your significant other distracted, set up the proposal site, or be in charge of film and photography.

  1. You get time off work to enjoy the bliss

Yes, you’re technically getting time off for the holidays, but why not pretend you’re vacationing in beautiful engagement bliss? Not only will you get the chance to go on a mini-getaway, but you’ll also have more time to plan an engagement party, or start talking logistics about the wedding. It’s kind of a bummer to get engaged and then go to work the next day, but getting engaged during the holidays really lets you soak in the feeling.

  1. You’ll never forget your anniversary

As time goes on, the anniversary is the first big date you forget. If you propose on Christmas or New Year’s, you’ll never forget it. Not only will it make these days that much more important to you, but they serve as a great reminder to get your significant other that gift they’ve been (not so subtly) hinting at.

  1. It’s romantic

The holidays aren’t just the happiest time of the year, they’re the most romantic. Imagine the twinkling lights, the smell of pine and cinnamon, or bending down on one knee just as clock reaches midnight. It’s the perfect atmosphere for a proposal.

Things to Keep in Mind if Getting Engaged During the Holidays

 

  1. Your family will be there

The presence of your family is both a pro and a con when it comes to getting engaged during the holidays. They’ll be there to cheer you on and help you out, but it may be a very cringe-worthy event if your partner says no. So, if you decided to propose during the holidays, you better be reasonably certain that they’re going to say yes. Any other outcome would definitely bring down the festivities. On the bright side, at least you’d have your family there to console you.

  1. Everyone might not be 100% happy for you

This one is hard to think about, but it’s also true. It’s not that a family member would resent you. They might have a lot of things on their mind at this time. You can’t expect to propose at the Christmas party and then have it be all about you. You have to be willing to be the happy side-note of the party. Your family will be thrilled for you, but everyone has their own plans on Christmas. Your proposal may not be as important to everyone else as it is to you.

You may also have to tone down the cheer. Especially if you have a recently-divorced relative, or a sibling desperately waiting for their own proposal. If you decide to propose in front of the family, their feelings will have to be taken into account as well. While most proposals are solely between two people, choosing such a public forum changes things.

I hope this post has been helpful! Especially if there’s anyone out there debating whether or not a holiday proposal is a good idea. I thinks it’s one of the most romantic proposals, but be sure you know what you’re doing!

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